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Jun. 9th, 2020

darren criss: onset-glee: *wave*

Hi!

Hi, I'm Janet. This is my journal. Most of the entries in here are open. In fact, most are cross-posts from my blogs. If an entry is NOT a cross-post, then it might be friends only. This leads to the whole friending issue.

Here's the deal:
  • If I know you in real life (i.e. family, schools I've gone to, church), then we can't be friends on here. I'm sorry, but there are 2 places in my life where I have this policy (Twitter & here).
  • If you've ever stalked me (i.e. the infamous Canadian), then you're not welcome here.
  • If you and I have talked online before, let me know.
  • If you and I have interests in common, let me know.
  • If you will not forgive the occasional ramble about things like vampires, then chances are you won't like it here.

What do I need to know?
  1. Your name/alias
  2. A little about you.
  3. If I know you from somewhere

Okay, I think that's it. Oh, and if you're just looking for icons/captures/fanart, go to [info]likesototallyme . This is where I mainly talk about the less glamorous stuff.

Oh, and since I mentioned Twitter, I thought I'd pimp out those accounts:

I have one for my personal tweets: @janersm
I also have one for my graphics related stuff (i.e. stuff that goes in my graphics journal, screen caps site): @likesototallyme
I have another for Urban Sunrise: @urbansunrisemb ([info]3ndboss , [info]whisperintheway , [info]skankzila , [info]yakusoku , [info]mrsmedcalf also have access to this account, since they are on staff)

If you don't know me, but want to friend me anyway, you should know:
  1. I have a somewhat turbulent relationship with my parents.  I love them, but we have issues.
  2. I have a fair amount of health problems of both the physical and mental varieties.  I can mock these...you cannot.
  3. I might come off as brash--I'm not necessarily trying to be rude.  I have a temper.  I have a short fuse.  I have anger issues, and I've pretty much repressed them all my life.  I'm trying to express myself in healthy manners, but 20+ years of bad habits can't be cured overnight.
  4. I am a fangirl.
  5. I will plug my sites whenever and wherever I pick.  Since it's my journal, I'm allowed that.
If you like me, join the fanlisting.  If you don't, then you probably shouldn't be here.  ;)

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Feb. 22nd, 2012

vamp diaries: stefan & elena: distraught

One Person’s Pain Is Another Person’s Misery

The Glee episode last night featured a comment by one of the main characters that suicide is selfish.  It isn’t an uncommon utterance. In fact, if you do a simple search on Google with the words suicide and selfish, it returns 10.5 million results.  So, clearly, this is something that many people either believe or think is absolutely ridiculous.

Different people handle the topic in different ways.  One comment that I found contained the following statement: “I think it’s not only selfish but it’s the last punishing blow to the living. It’s the easy way out of dealing with the turbulence that is life! We are left with so many unanswered questions.”  Apparently, this person doesn’t want someone to commit suicide because it is just too cruel to the living.  I guess that it is simple to put your own feelings ahead of those of someone who is so depressed that they see no other way to deal with their pain than to end their own life.  I mean, that’s a very typical thing, to put your needs before those of someone else.  What’s weird is that that attitude is not considered to be selfish, even though the “survivor” is not thinking about what the suicide victim has been going through, what pain might be causing them such agony, and just how desperate or lonely the person might be feeling.  To me, it seems selfish to say, “You’re punishing me by killing yourself.”

A religious website had the following: “When one has no hope does not know God or have faith, suicide becomes one of the greatest acts of selfishness.” I don’t get it. Does that mean that if a person who commits suicide is an atheist that they are being selfish, but if they are a Christian or practitioner of another religion that they are now less selfish?  How does their spirituality or lack-thereof determine if the act is selfish or not?  If God exists, do people really think that one of God’s posse is keeping up with which suicides occur among those who are church-going and which are among those who lack faith?  It seems like God would have bigger fish to fry. (And, no, that wasn’t some lame Lent-oriented pun.) God shouldn’t want anyone to suffer needlessly and, despite what some religious organizations seem to think, I don’t see a loving God as being one intent punishing people for being sick.

A user from the Experience Project’s website stated, “I don’t think its selfish to be angry with a person who chooses a permanent solution to a temporary problem.” That disregards a whole segment of society. While some who are suicidal are only temporarily depressed, there are so many who have a mental health issue that might be considered terminal because it will be with the person for the remainder of their life. For example, if a schizophrenic ends their life, then they are using a permanent solution to resolve a permanent problem. The statement also disregards the intensity of the pain that the person, regardless of the nature of their problem, is going through.

And, as always, children seem to have the best understanding of the world we live in and the problems we deal with. As a first grader, this person had lost her father to suicide and heard people at his funeral asking how her father could hurt her family in such a way. Even at that young of an age, she realized, “he didn’t do this to us. Instinctively, I knew.” So how is it that kids can understand that suicide is not an act of aggression against friends and family? How do the rest of us not understand that?

Suicide is not some simple choice people make because they are lazy or they don’t care about others. Suicide is the choice of someone who feels that their life has lost that little spark that made it worth living. Suicidal ideation is a horrible thing to go through. To feel suicidal is to feel like your very core is being sucked out of your body by a high-power vacuum and no matter what you do, you can’t hold onto it and you know that you can’t save yourself. It’s almost like being in the ocean with no life preserver, no lifeguard in sight, and no ability to swim. It drains you of your hope. It drains you of any joy you could have in your life. It makes you feel like your family, your friends, etc. don’t care or shouldn’t care or that they would be better off without you. And to write it off as the act of someone who doesn’t think about what others will go through is to thoroughly misunderstand the act itself.

Mirrored from Hyperaware.

Feb. 17th, 2012

stock: cupcakes: fashion

How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

Today is my 28th birthday. I’ve received a few sweet birthday wishes from some of my friends.  I’ve also received a card and a check (for $20) from my grandmother.  I have a feeling that that will be it for the birthday celebration.  I’m very sure that my maternal aunt will not be sending any cards.  I think that she is still of the opinion that if I died, the world would be better off.  My paternal aunt might say happy birthday if she gets on Facebook sometime today.  My mom will probably forget that it is my birthday, and will thus expect me to run around doing things for her.  I don’t think my dad has even noticed that it is no longer the 16th, so he may not realize that it is my birthday. (Oh, there he just noticed.)

So, my plans for the day are:

  • Once my dad goes to bed, I shall watch the episodes of Vampire Diaries, Gossip Girl, and Grey’s Anatomy that I’ve had to DVR this week.
  • If I still have energy after that, I’m going to finally watch Breaking Dawn Pt. 1.  (I still haven’t seen it.)

That’s all.  No other plans.  No other plans to make plans.

I told my parents a few hours ago that I was not going to do anything on my birthday, meaning I’m not cooking or doing stuff for them.  I doubt that they will remember that.

I may see if I can go get Will (maternal aunt’s grandson) a birthday card so that I can celebrate his birthday, which is the 18th.  I have a feeling that a card from me would be unwanted by his parents and grandparents.  I don’t really care whether or not they want me to send him a card, though.  I have no problem with him.  He has no problem with me.  It would be nice to celebrate his birthday.

Mirrored from fuzzypinkslippers.com.

Feb. 9th, 2012

stock: sleepy redhead girl

Not Now, I Have A Headache

I had my appointment on Tuesday with the BOTOX doctor. (He’s just another neurologist in the practice with my neurologist, but he’s younger and has apparently been schooled in the use of toxins for neurological issues.) It was interesting. Actually, it pretty much sucked. I have a hard time with appointments for just about any kind of problem. I end up making light of problems, even if they’re nearly crippling me. This time was no different.

He asked me how many days I have headaches. I told him 20. He asked how many were severe. I told him 15. The truth is that I have headaches more often than that and that they are severe more of the time. I didn’t tell him this because my mind was doing this kind of warning thing, where I thought that if I told him the truth that he would think that I was just a drug addict.

Well, apparently, my answers were so off that he was “worried” that I might be having rebound headaches. He was still planning on submitting the paperwork to my insurance to get the BOTOX injection approved. He wants me to go off the Tramadol to prove that I’m not suffering from medication-overuse headaches. Since I’m not using the Tramadol as often as I do the Zanaflex and the Flexeril, and because I still have some Tramadol from October, I really don’t think that is the issue.

I was a bit annoyed by the speculation that I might be overusing pain medicine. I get why he thought that. I mean, I was making weird jokes, which I blame partly on my tendency to make light of my health issues and partly on my having taken 2 Flexeril earlier in the day. I also told him that I was having pain in my neck, was on Effexor for depression, and had trouble sleeping. Of course, I’ve been on the Effexor for over 10 years, and I have had a lot of trouble sleeping throughout my life. I also told him that before my current medicines I’d had problems with Migranal and Imitrex. He didn’t know that I had problems with Migranal because I have bad reactions with caffeine. He also didn’t know that the Imitrex bad reaction happened the very first time that I took it, and it wasn’t a rebound headache. It was more like serotonin syndrome. Anyway, for those things, I’m not that annoyed by him.

I am, however, annoyed that this man couldn’t be arsed to look at the damn file or any of the tests and notes done by my neurologist. I’m pretty damn sure that if you have a chart in front of you that has recent MRI and EEG results, as well as God knows what other tests my neuro has done over the past several years, that you look at that chart. Otherwise, why have a chart?

Anyway, to prove that I’m not overusing my pain medicine, I am going to be switching from it to Elavil. That makes me a bit uncomfortable since I’m also on Effexor, which he hinted that he wanted to take me off of. (If he tries, I may have to resort to some violence.) He also suggested that I get my eyes checked, because he thinks I have a lazy eye or something. He checked my eyes, doing the movement test first (and stalling forever at the upward part at the end) and following with an external examination of my eye test, which he ended up triggering a massive migraine. (The left eye didn’t take long, but he seemed to be obsessing over something about my right eye. He ended up getting extremely close to me, with his hand on my face, and it seemed like he was looking at the right eye for about five or six minutes. My photosensitive eyes didn’t like this, thus the migraine.) I was not happy to leave an appointment about headaches with a worse headache than I’d come in with.

Mirrored from fuzzypinkslippers.com.

Feb. 6th, 2012

kstew: idgaf

Obscenity and You: An American Guide to Censorship

How many people were actually offended by M.I.A. during last night’s halftime show? My guess is not many. For the most part, I bet people didn’t even notice. I know that I didn’t notice. Hell, I was online the whole time and I don’t remember seeing anyone even mention it.

Somehow, though, someone did. And apparently, it was the wrong someone because now the Parents Television Council, an organization which thinks it knows how to parent best and has such stellar parents on its advisory board as Billy Ray Cyrus, is involved, and they’re making it a big deal; a bigger deal than it should be. They complain about this event and talk about how this has harmed their children, but did it really?  Did the kids ask what the gesture or the word was?  Did they actually have to take time out of their Sunday evenings to actually parent their own kids? I have a feeling that the kids didn’t notice it, and that, if they did, they probably didn’t care.  By making this incident into such a scandalous affair and making it seem so taboo for someone to violate a social more, they are more likely to see this kind of behavior and language within their own families.

Obscenity laws run rampant in American culture, allowing groups like the PTC to attempt to govern what ends up on our television sets. In a society that promotes the idea of free thought and free speech, we have trouble accepting that some people might not conform to Puritanical ideals. We spend time on newscasts devoted to faux stories like the Super Bowl halftime show and we don’t pay attention to the real stories from the night, like Pete Hoekstra’s political ad that actually was offensive.

The PTC is demanding more than an apology from NBC and the NFL, in their words for having “a lineup full of performers who have based their careers on shock, profanity and titillation.”

How many performers don’t do something shocking in their careers?  I remember people freaking out when the Madonna/Britney and Madonna/Christina kisses happened on the MTV Video Music Awards.  Oh, or how about when the guy from Rage Against the Machine climbed up on the scaffolding on the VMA stage and made his political protest?  Or what about Miley Cyrus’ doing the pole dance at the Teen Choice Awards or, more recently, making photos at her boyfriend’s birthday party licking his phallic-shaped cake?  That might actually be considered shocking, profane, and titillating by a majority of people.

But, as a nation and as a culture, how define what is shocking, profane, or titillating? What is completely unacceptable to one person could be acceptable to another. To me, flipping off the camera is not a big deal.  And a singer mouthing a expletive?  Again, not a big deal, especially since being caught spouting off various expletives is not all that unheard of during a sports game.  (I grew up trying to figure out all the words that Greg Maddox used to say during Atlanta Braves games.)

We’ve got kids being beaten or molested in their homes, kids hearing epithets used on various groups and being raised to hate, kids being neglected, underage kids going on social media outlets and being exposed to things that they aren’t old enough to be exposed to, and kids watching violent programming. So why is it that this one incident is being lambasted?   Why is it such a big deal that this happened?

As I mentioned earlier, part of the problem is that we allow the PTC too much of an influence over how we are governed. Part of that influence is exerted through the FCC, whose power over obscenities and profanity is currently before the Supreme Court.  You may remember the FCC for their lovely part in the 2004 circus that was the Super Bowl halftime show with the wardrobe malfunction.  You may also remember the PTC from that, as well.

The actual power lies within the Supreme Court, if they choose to step in, which has established a three-part “test” for determining what is obscene:

  • An average person, applying contemporary community standards, must find that the material, as a whole, appeals to the prurient interest;
  • The material must depict or describe, in a patently offensive way, sexual conduct specially defined by applicable law; and
  • The material, taken as a whole, must lack serious literary, artistic, political or scientific value.

Now, I don’t know that this incident would qualify as obscene under the second and third parts, since it was not actually depicting or describing (despite the implication of the gesture and the meaning of the alleged expletive, since both are forms of showing contempt) sexual conduct and since it has caused a bit of a political and artistic debate in the country. I’m not even certain that the FCC could fine over it being an indecent act since it doesn’t describe or depict a sexual act. And I’m absolutely certain that it doesn’t meet the profanity rule, since you have to actually hear the word in order to break that rule. Of course, the same could be said about the Janet Jackson incident, but that didn’t stop the FCC from going after her for showing her nipple. So, I would definitely not be surprised if they go after M.I.A., NBC, and the NFL.  Hell, I wouldn’t be surprised if they go after Madonna for wearing a skirt while doing a cartwheel next, or if they went after M&M’s for the “Sexy and I Know It” commercial or the GoDaddy body paint commercial.

Why don’t we actually focus on legitimate issues, instead of pretending like this halftime show crap is significant?  Are we too afraid of dealing with the real problems of the world  that we have to focus on something as dumb as this?

Mirrored from Hyperaware.

vamp diaries: katherine: pout

Can’t and Won’t Are Different Things

I’m going to start this by saying that I love my mother and father dearly because I may say some things that indicate otherwise.

I’m tired sleep deprived.  I don’t get to sleep well very often.  I’m always doing something for someone, whether it is waking up every two hours to get my mom food and water or waking up every morning to wake my dad up (even though he has an alarm clock) or waking up to cook dinner for them.  I’ve become a mother to my parents, and that might be okay, except I don’t want to be their mother and I don’t feel like I can keep doing these things for them.  I can’t quit, though, because it isn’t a job.  And I try not to complain because I know that they both don’t feel well and I know that my dad does some things around the house that I can’t do.

Still, I want to quit.  I want to run away and hide somewhere where they can’t find me.  I want to leave and never come back.  And I know that that is selfish, but I just cannot deal with this any longer.  I feel like shit and I need to sleep, but I can’t because someone always needs me.  So, the more sleep I miss, the grumpier that I get and the worse I feel.  I try to point this out, and it is remembered for all of two seconds before I get my marching orders again.

My mother fell last weekend and cracked her ribs.  She wouldn’t go to the doctor for the first few days after the fall, but just kept whimpering like a hurt animal.  She said she couldn’t go to the doctor because my dad wouldn’t take her.  She hadn’t told my dad she needed to go, and he can’t exactly force her to go.  (He knew she needed to, but I don’t think he wanted to try to convince her.)  So, I told him that she needed to go, and I told her that I told him that she needed to go.   She went to the ER last week and found out that her ribs were cracked.  The doctor at the ER couldn’t give her any extra pain medicine (because she’s on one with an opiate antagonist in it), so he gave her Flexeril.

My mom doesn’t do so well on Flexeril.  Every time she takes one, she ends up sleeping through days and wondering around in a stupor.  She gets whiny and she gets more clumsy.  And this leads to her falling more often and to her making claims that we either don’t love her or don’t take care of her or don’t pay attention to her.

Case in point, she fell last night.  She had already fallen about 12 hours earlier and managed, with some help, to get up on her own.  (Keep in mind, when she broke the ribs last week, she got herself off the floor with absolutely no help.)  Last night, though, she wasted her energy holding on to a door frame during the fall, so she was too tired to try to get up when she finally completed the fall.  We had to call the ambulance.  Even though she was fine, other than that she was in a drugged out state and a little sore, she decided she had to go to the emergency room.  There was nothing wrong, but she needed to have tests run to prove that to her.

When my father and I were going to call the ambulance, she first accused us of not taking care of her and not loving her.  This was after I’d managed to hear her call (over Mims’ “Like This”), run to her, then run to my dad’s room and gotten him up, and we’d both spent about 30-45 minutes trying to help her get up.  My dad had tried to basically pick her up, even though she weighs about 100 pounds or so more than him.  I’d moved pieces of furniture toward her that I thought would help her get up easier.  My father was out of breath and worn out.  I was about to pass out or vomit or both.  But because we headed toward the phone to call someone else to help her, which she had asked us to do a minute earlier, she determined that we didn’t care enough for her.

When the paramedics got here, she enjoyed slinging some barbs at our expense.  My dad drove to the hospital at 3:30 or so in the morning, even though he has trouble seeing at night, so that he would be with her at the ER.  (I stayed here, as I usually do.)  When she got home, she had my dad fix her 2 breakfast burritos.  A couple of hours later, she woke me up with an order for a bagel and cream cheese.  And at about 1 pm, she asked me to fix her 2 small frozen chicken biscuits, her 32 oz. cup of water, and hot chocolate.  That wouldn’t be such a big deal if we had a decent microwave, but since the biscuits took about 5-6 minutes to cook, as did the hot chocolate, and I didn’t feel like I could waste the energy sitting down and standing up, I ended up standing up during the 12 minutes it took to do this.  A while after she had eaten that and had gotten up for a minute, I ended up having to move her back onto her couch.  And she was still in the “my family is awful to me” mood, which made it that much harder.  (Somehow, the moodier she is, the less cooperative she is.)  She even said it a few times, which I wanted to scream at her over.

I get that she is in pain, but she is stuck in this bubble.  She thinks that no one takes care of her, which is ridiculous.  We do everything that she asks for and she still gets pissed off at us.  And she’s doing more of her “I’m worse than you are” comparisons again.  She’d stopped for a few days, but she’s back at it.  If I tell her that I’m going to faint, I don’t exactly want her to try to one-up my statement.  I want her to say that I should go sit down or take a break or something that I would think a mother would suggest to their daughter when their daughter said something like that.  And, this may sound petty, she always seems to fall more (and have to go to the ER) when I have an appointment with a doctor or someone that I need to see.  She may not plan it, but it almost always happens that way.

So I’m frustrated.  And I’m sitting here with a splitting headache, and I know that I can’t take anything for it because my mom might need me and my dad is getting in his much-needed rest.  So I’m going to try to avoid talking to anyone on the internet until I get a little bit of sleep because, until then, I am going to be bitchy.

Mirrored from fuzzypinkslippers.com.

Jan. 31st, 2012

glee: sam: hell no

Why I Wouldn’t Vote For: Newt Gingrich

Oh, Newt, how do I loathe thee? Let me count the ways. I could say it is because you are a big schmuck and just leave it at that. That would be true, but it wouldn’t be worthy of a blog entry.  I could also say that I have disliked you for so long (since I was around 10 years old) that it is just impossible to start liking you, but that wouldn’t be completely true.  People could change, but I don’t know that you are capable of any kind of meaningful chance.  Honestly, when I look at you, I think of a a conservative Dennis the Menace or, possibly, a robot; and I just don’t like robots.  But these are not the reasons that I will not vote for you.  No, the reasons are numerous and varied, and might contribute to some people think that this whole post is just too long to read.

Though I don’t want to judge the private lives of others, Newt Gingrich is one that begs to be judged. I don’t particularly like the idea of divorces, and that is probably one of the only things that people might think me as conservative on. (Actually, my issue with divorces is when people don’t take their marriages seriously, so it isn’t really a conservative thing as much as a frustration at folks thing, but I digress.) First, he marries and (eventually) divorces one of his former high school teachers, which I could almost forgive him for, as those types of relationships are often (on some level) a form of authoratative abuse–especially when they start (like his did) by secretive dating. Now, I might have let it slide because of the circumstances related to the start of the marriage, but because he chose to leave his wife while she was being treated for cancer makes this personal decision of his a very disgusting decision. It is even more disgusting, if the allegations by Jackie Battley are to be believed, that he wanted to discuss the terms of her divorce while she was recovering from having surgery (her third related to uterine cancer) to remove a (benign) uterine tumor. Even more disgusting was that he refused to pay alimony and child-support while marrying Marianne Ginther, whom he’d been having an affair with. I have a hard time forgiving any person who cheats on their sick spouse. Adultery is bad enough, but to do it when a spouse is sick is just, in my mind, unforgivable.

Of course, his morally-deficient personal decisions don’t stop with his dumping of a wife with cancer for a younger, prettier version that he’d already proposed to during his first marriage. No, Newt was so into family values that he chose to browbeat Bill Clinton for his cheating ways, even though he had cheated on his first wife and was cheating (again) with who would become his next wife. And when he left Marianne for Callista Bisek Gingrich, it was a surprise to Marianne. Not only did he file for divorce from Marianne, he asked the Catholic Archdiocese of Atlanta for an annulment based on the fact that Marianne was previously married. He not only chose to divorce her, but to say that their marriage never existed. That alone would be proof of his lack of a conscience, but he left her eight months after she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. As is true with many chronic illnesses, the symptoms of and problems related to Multiple Sclerosis get worse with stress. It is important for people who have Multiple Sclerosis (or cancer) to stay as relaxed as possible to keep their diseases from worsening. It shouldn’t have surprised Marianne that Newt would do this to her, since it was virtually the same thing that he had done with Jackie. It also shouldn’t surprise her that he has never expressed regrets or apologized to her for the choice to leave her or cheat on her, since it looks like Mr. Gingrich has no moral compass.

So, why do these immoral decisions impact why I wouldn’t vote for Gingrich? Well, it’s a couple of things. In general, people who divorce their chronically ill spouse end up not only dissolving a marriage, but stripping a person of income, health insurance, and a good enough support system. Usually, the divorces come about because of the stress of caring for a disabled spouse or stress over the family’s finances. As the former probably isn’t true since, at least in Marianne’s case, the chronic illness was a relatively new diagnosis and the latter is likely not the case for Newt Gingrich because of his financial status, then it makes it seem like he doesn’t want to take care of someone in need. That is not a personality trait that should be admired or coddled in a politician. It is bad enough when politicians lose their moral compass because they are bought and paid for by corporations, but when they have no moral compass to begin with, it makes me wonder what kind of decisions they might make when given a great deal of power and authority. Another reason that I would not vote for him based on this issue alone is that if he abandons someone when things are stressful, then will he be able to handle one of the most stressful jobs in the world? What will he do when he has to make a decision and someone’s life is on the line? Will he be able to make it or will he just go find something easier to do?

Now, I shall devote my anti-Gingrich opinion to the typical issues that impact many voters on their way to the polls.

First of all, Newt Gingrich is, against federal funding “abortion providers” which is a fun and inflammatory way of saying that he doesn’t like Planned Parenthood. Despite the fact that he knows that it is already illegal for organizations like Planned Parenthood to use federal money for abortions, he still managed to bring it up as one of his campaign promises. He claims that more people in the country are pro-life than pro-choice, though, in 2003, 66% of Americans believe that first trimester abortions should be legal, with 25% of people polled supported legality into the second trimester and 10% into the third. Each of these numbers was up slightly from a 2000 poll and about the same as the numbers from 1996. A 2007 CBS polls also found that 30% of people said it should be permitted in cases like rape, incest, or to save a woman’s life, 16% said it should be permitted, but subjected to greater restrictions, 12% only want it permitted to save a woman’s life, and 31% said it should be permitted in all cases. In that poll, only 5% wanted an outright ban. This means that, regardless of how they self-identify, the majority of Americans are actually pro-choice on some level.

Newt Gingrich is a hypocrite. This is one thing that I’m pretty sure most people could agree on, if they looked at the facts. He has repeatedly gone after Mitt Romney for making money off of the Freddie Mac/Fannie Mae housing bubble, despite working in a “strategic” influential position as a lobbyist for the housing market giants. If he was allowed to make money off of people going into debt, because of the “free enterprise” that he so lovingly promotes, then why not allow someone else to do the same without painting them in a bad light? And it isn’t just the economy that he is a hypocrite on. Gingrich has spoken in favor of cracking down on deadbeat dads, which is almost funny since he chose not to pay child support for his own children. How dare he take the moral high ground on that issue?

Gingrich doesn’t understand the economy and the problems related to it. He blames all of the issues related to the recession on Ben Bernanke, despite the fact that the majority of the problems that actually caused the recession were started during Alan Greenspan’s term. Bernanke became the Chairman of the Fed almost 2 years before the economy officially went into a recession, while most of the actions started in the 90′s and early in the first decade of the 21st century. In fact, he, during his term in Congress and as Speaker of the House, helped pass some of the laws that led to the recession. If anyone should have their feet held to the fire over this recession, it should be people like Newt Gingrich.

Newt Gingirch seems to be a conspiracy theorist. At the very least, he partakes in the conservative tradition of paranoia. He promotes loyalty tests for all Americans working in government positions because, as he puts it, “we now know there really were communist spies.” He doesn’t specify which government positions or how he would be able to tell who was lying and who wasn’t. He thinks that continuing the PATRIOT Act is a good idea because he says that we will all “be in danger for the rest of our lives” from terrorism. While it is true that we could be the victims of terrorism, it could also be true that we are all potential victims of crime, car accidents or accidents in other forms of transportation, health problems, etc. I mean, a lot of people have the possibility of having aneurysm somewhere in their body, which would increase the risk of dying unexpectedly, but that doesn’t mean that the possibility of dying by aneurysm should cause us all to have panic attacks and force everyone to be checked for them, including people who aren’t even necessarily at risk for them. The support of the PATRIOT Act is a support of severe and, many times, unwarranted anxiety and panic in all Americans. By making people fear some sort of imminent death, Gingrich promotes the allowing the government to use our fears and irrational thoughts against us. That is an action that could have severe repercussions for our basic rights and freedoms.

Newt Gingrich loves bringing up that he helped author the Defense of Marriage Act, a law enacted in 1996 that defines marriage as a legal union between one man and one woman. If it fails, he wants a constitutional amendment to ban it. I could point out how hypocritical it is to have a noted philanderer promoting a law that defines marriage. I could also point out how cruel it is that Gingrich has a half-sister, Candace Gingrich-Jones, who is personally impacted by his ignorance. Gingrich-Jones came out as a lesbian years ago, even appearing on Friends for the marriage of Carol and Susan, and has been challenging his political views openly since then. (Gingrich-Jones did say that privately her brother is cordial to her wife and bought the couple a shower gift and a wedding gift, which makes her question whether he is really anti-gay.) But I think it is more important to say that promoting the Defense of Marriage Act, Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell, or any law denying civil rights to any group of people is not the kind of behavior that I would want in a leader of this country. It is even more disheartening that Gingrich chose to help finance the ousting three Iowa Supreme Court justices who approved same sex marriage in the state. I find it disturbing that he chose to call those who supported the ACLU’s lawsuit against the Boy Scouts of America a group of “counter-culture warriors”, as it is a way to stir a greater hatred against the LGBT community and those who support the civil rights of all persons. It is also disturbing that Newt Gingrich refuses to accept that America is socially behind (including in same-sex marriage) so many other “developed nations” which impacts how the rest of the world sees us. He may think that it doesn’t matter, but even he should know that a lack of foreign support makes it harder for this country to be taken seriously when we comment on the actions of dictatorships and regimes that deny civil rights to their people and it also hurts when, in times of military conflict, we need the help of our allies. Regardless of what he wants to think, we are not on this planet alone, which means that we need a better ethical standard in this country.

Newt Gingrich promotes the more of his illogical ideology when it comes to drugs. He claims that legalization of Marijuana would tear the country apart. He claims that this would result in more people on welfare, more people being dependent, more people with bad health care outcomes, fewer people being able to work/pay attention on the job, and more people advocating cocaine and heroin becoming legalized. Maybe it isn’t his fault that he sees things this way, since this what many Americans are taught as children. The fact is that marijuana was more openly used in America up until the early to mid part of the twentieth century and its illegal status is the result of a series of actions by Andrew Mellon, William Randolph Hearst, and the Du Pont family. Hearst felt that the use of hemp as a substitute for paper pulp was a threat to his timber holdings, while DuPont, which was heavily invested in by Mellon, was promoting nylon as a replacement for hemp. The financial impact of marijuana was impacting their bank balances so they worked to make it illegal. The result is people like Gingrich continuing to promote an anti-marijuana stance, despite the fact that it could actually help the economy (since it is the #4 value crop in the country and is #1 or #2 in several states), does help some people with chronic illness to deal with various symptoms related to their disease, has never proven to be a gateway drug, and its being illegal has a negative impact on the crime rate of the country. (Many people are imprisoned on charges related to marijuana, thus contributing to prison over-crowding. The illegality also contributes to money going to various criminal enterprises, which increases the rate of other crimes.) It should also be noted that, though it is illogical to say that a legalization of marijuana would lead to a legalization of cocaine or heroin, the legalization (at least in certain cases) of those drugs might actually be a good thing, since both have been known to treat certain medical and psychiatric problems. (Also it is hypocritical for him to be anti-drug since he also admitted to smoking marijuana during his youth.)

His suggestion of increasing penalties on drug users is also a form of cruel and unusual punishment. In this country and in the world, we have a tendency to want to punish people using illegal drugs, while we do not understand that punishment is the wrong course of action for drug addicts. Drug addiction is both a psychological and physiological condition. It is something that we should try to treat, not punish. Throwing an addict in jail does not help the addict to deal with his or her addiction. Instead, it punishes him or her for his or her problem and, in some cases, introduces them to the world of drug smuggling within prisons. If we dealt with drug addiction in a more progressive way, then we might actually have fewer addicts.

Newt Gingrich’s promoting of ending the student loan program and only having a work-study model might sound good to some folks, but it is not flexible enough to deal with the lives of many college students. Gingrich thinks that students go to school longer if they are on loans, and take fewer hours per semester on average, which he says has led to the tuitions going up. He does not take into account that many students who are on loans are actually very well aware of what their education costs, but are, for one reason or another, unable to afford college any other way. Some people may not be able to do work-study because they already have a job or because they have a child at home or because they are ill and unable to work. Some may be unable to do a work-study program if they are in a program that requires them to complete an internship. For example, to get a Bachelor of Social Work degree, you have to complete a 40 hour internship. While some universaries will allow a work-study student to count some of those hours toward their BSW, it is generally on a case-by-case basis.

Gingrich also continues to promote ignorance when it comes to social welfare programs. He has made various statements that make programs like food stamps sound like they are being used primarily by blacks and other minorities (whites are actually the majority) or folks on Medicaid are actively abusing emergency rooms. (At least in Alabama, if you are on Medicaid alone, you must be going in for an emergency or something that cannot wait until a doctor can see you, or you are responsible for the full-cost of the visit.) His comments also make poor people sound like they are some how intellectually deficient in statements like, “to the shock of academics, poor people were aware of money and strived to get that bonus by not abusing emergency rooms”, which almost makes people using social welfare programs like Medicaid sound like either academics or Americans in general expect these people to have some severe cognitive issues. He does not understand that people within the system can be just as intelligent as those outside of the system. He even suggests that people who are unemployed need to do some kind of training, which seems to point to his idea that they are not educated. Given the number of jobs related just to the financial sector that were lost over the past few years, I have a hard time accepting that people who lost their jobs are somehow untrained or uneducated. The idea that people aren’t working because there is something wrong with them is a type of victim blaming that is just completely unacceptable. He also does not understand that the majority of abuses that the right claims as being rampant are the result of restrictive social programs. (For decades, the restrictive welfare programs would help single mothers, but not families. This led to families making the decision that in order to feed and shelter their children, they would split so that they could have help with income or food or housing. Thus the tradition of belittling “welfare moms” began.) There is no such thing as “free welfare” as he calls it. Gingrich willfully plays up the idea that welfare programs are something that people can have throughout their entire life, despite the fact that he was instrumental in working on the bill that started TANF, which is a temporary program that promotes work and only gives benefits for five years over a person’s lifetime. Oddly, the requirements that TANF set for people and the time limits actually led to employment rates of 20% less than those who left voluntarily. About two-thirds of people worked at some point after they left welfare, but many are still impoverished either by not having a job or by being concentrated in low-wage jobs. Having fewer people on the books for assistance hasn’t helped lower the poverty rate, since the number of leavers considered impoverished is between 48% and 74%. It has actually the share of the population considered to be working poor go up within the country. Newt can pretend that because people are working that this is somehow acceptable, but it is never acceptable for children and families to be in poverty.

Promoting tort reform is another anti-freedom issue that Gingrich seems to enjoy having as part of his campaign. Torts allow Americans to have some way to right a wrong within the civil justice system. It is a right guaranteed by the Constitution. Tort reform has not stopped “frivolous” lawsuits. It has, however, allowed corporations and bad doctors and other professionals to hold onto their money, even if there is proof that they have harmed a person in some way.

He has severe misogynistic tendencies, which is not only evident in his treatment of former spouses, but is also evident in a claim he made in 1995 about women and combat to make a point. Gingrich made a comment to a college class that women are not suitable for combat because after 30 days in the ditch they are susceptible to infections, while men were born to hunt giraffes. While he was trying to say that women have skills that make them better suited for non-combat positions, he used a grotesque way of saying that and he promoted an idea that women are somehow built to fight. That is rather odd to me, because as many girls and women will probably tell you, you do not want to pick a fight with those of us without a Y chromosome because there are many women who will willingly kick someone’s ass. Underestimating the fighting ability of women is one way that Newt Gingrich exhibits that he doesn’t understand women. His misogyny was also exhibited by his statement that high school girls should be rewarded if they graduate as virgins. I’m not exactly sure if he’s planning on doing a virginity test, like the ones done in countries accused of or known for human rights violations, or if he is planning just taking the word of the girls.

I have expressed on this blog and off that I feel that Gingrich is a racist. Gingrich wants to replace bilingual education in this country with immersion in English so that people speek a common language and prosper, instead of staying in the ghetto. Whether referring to Hispanics or Asians or any other group, what he said was, at best, disrespectful and comes across as being very hateful. (Interestingly, there are many countries that provide multilanguage educations that have better economies and better education systems than the predominantly one language system that we have in America.) Another racist and/or classist tendency of his was saying saying that kids should work poor-time in school as janitors. This is not only a disrespectul position with regards to race and class, it is also against the law, cruel and dangerous (given the chemicals used by and activities done [like electrical repairs] that “janitors” do in schools) to make children do janitorial work, and advocates firing a group of working class people who probably need jobs just like other adults in this country. So, in that regard, he is not only racist and classist, but a complete and utter fool. Another racist idea of his is that Palestinians are an “invented people” and that somehow he is the only person telling the “truth” on this. It isn’t true. It may have been under the control of different groups over the years, but that doesn’t mean that they are an invented people any more than calling Estonians, who were controlled by various countries for hundreds of years, an invented people. The fact is that people lived there before Israel was established, both in Biblical times and in the last century. What they were called officially didn’t change the fact that they were Palestinian. Pretending like they didn’t exist will help spur more anti-American sentiment in the region, which will result in a greater risk of injury or death for Americans and American allies abroad.

Gingrich is one of many Republicans who has said that the Environmental Protection Agency is a radical, over-reaching agency that should be putting the economy over the environment. He fails to acknowledge that the quality of actual protection of the environment by the EPA has been reduced regularly and dramatically since his hero Reagan was in office; by not acknowledging this, he also fails to acknowledge that the economy and corporations have regularly benefited from the decrease in environmental protections. If we continue to put the economy over the environment, we will only see more of an increase in rates of asthma and other chronic diseases. (Asthma alone has increased by 4.3 million people in the United States in the past 11 years.)

And of course, there is Gingrich’s plan to have an American colony on the moon in eight years. Now, NASA is a wonderful agency. But getting to the Moon within 8 years is out of the question. It was a lot more feasible in 2005, but with just 8 years, it is financially impossible. And trying to get it past a Congress that has repeatedly decreased funding for the space agency is politically impossible. Then, of course, there is the science of building it for the moon and getting it to the moon. Newt proposes smaller rockets that already exist, but that would be more difficult and time-consuming, which would end up costing even more. Of course it seems like Newt Gingrich is either promoting this idea either to pander to Floridians or to promote his belief that China is out to enslave and/or kill all Americans. Either way, he is promoting this idea for the wrong reason.

So these are just some of the many reasons why I would not vote for Newt Gingrich.

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Jan. 24th, 2012

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American Exceptionalism Scares Me

The other day I saw something that said that Callista Gingrich, the third wife of Newt Gingrich, promotes the idea of American Exceptionalism.  Honestly, the idea of promoting a particular nation or ethnicity over another is a bit scary to me.  It becomes especially disconcerting when the person promoting it has bleached blonde hair, sparkly blue eyes, and dresses like she’s stepping out of a mid-twentieth century movie or sitcom where the womenfolk just weren’t quite as well informed as their husbands.   Maybe that’s because I’ve watched too many documentaries on other countries and their beliefs about how they were more special than other people.  Maybe it’s because there were countries during the early and mid-twentieth centuries that promoted the idea that not only were they more special, more deserving, and more super-cool, and when people didn’t agree with them, those extra-special and cool folks decided to force people into agreeing that they were awesome by threatening them with war, loss of life, loss of property, etc.

I tried to give Callista’s special video on America being the home of the coolest kids around, but halfway through the short (two-and-a-half minute) video, I was already feeling nauseated by the the rhetoric.  Somehow, we are super special because God gave us special rights because we’re from a special nation.  (She doesn’t understand that the very line she quotes doesn’t mention anything about the rights only being given to Americans and no one else.  In fact, it says everyone is equal.)   And while she’s giving the shout-out out to God for being the bestest sugar daddy in the history of the universe for giving us our coolness factor, this video, like so many propaganda films of the last century, displays various military images.  Maybe it’s to inspire patriotism, but that was the excuse those other governments had almost a hundred years ago, too.

She may have innocent reasons for promoting American Exceptionalism, as may many others who have promoted it through the years.  Still, I would hope that people would be more wary of the ideas of one country or one group of people within a country being more important than another.  The ideas of empires, nationalism, and exceptionalism all rely on people placing more value on the lives of one group than another.  That may seem like a basic tenet of being a good citizen, but it is also a basic tenet of ideologies that shaped Nazi Germany, a fascist Italy, and the far-right regimes that rules the Eastern Bloc during the Cold War.

When we start pretending that we are better than or more important than anyone else, we begin going down a dangerous path.  If we hope to be a nation that promotes liberty and freedom, then we can’t accept the idea that we are, in any way, more deserving of freedom, respect, and liberty than any other group.  When we start promoting the idea that we are better than anyone else, we forget that one very basic idea that existed at the very start of this nation: equality.

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Dear Birthers

Perhaps you do not understand the Constitution or perhaps you just don’t care. Personally, I think you are racist and/or ignorant. No matter what the reason is for your insistence that Obama is not a US Citizen, you need to shut up and get informed.  There is no good excuse for your stupidity at this point, so I’m gonna try to help you get over that stupidity.

First of all, Obama was born in the state of Hawaii in the year 1961. There were witnesses, since he was born in a hospital. There was a birth certificate, since he was born in a state that has a certificate of live birth (aka a legal birth certification). There was also a birth announcement. Now, I know that on the last thing you birthers think that his grandparents from Kansas were trying to make him look like he was born here because they were conspiring to make him President almost fifty years later.  Conspiracy theories are for people who wear tinfoil hats.  They aren’t for high-functioning people like many of your purport yourselves to be.

Secondly, if Obama wasn’t born in the state of Hawaii, he would still be (cue drum roll and ominous music) an American citizen. Why? Well, since you admit (via your conspiracy theory) that his mother was a US citizen, he would be an American by birth. His mother came from the Midwest long after it had been entered into the Union. She, as an American citizen, carried him in her womb and gave birth to him, giving him (as a birthright) American citizenship. It made him a natural-born citizen. So, the very same thing that makes many of you citizens made him one, too.

Now, why do I think that you birthers are racist? It is very simple. In the 2008 elections, there were two viable candidates: Barack Obama and John McCain. Barack Obama was born in Hawaii to an American mother, making him an American citizen born on American soil, which meets even the narrowest of definitions of citizenship. John McCain was born in Panama to American parents. Yes, he was born at a Naval Air Station, which means he was technically born on American soil, but he wasn’t born in the fifty states, which is what many of you claim is necessary.  So, if this weren’t a racism-related issue, then you would have been equally appalled with the idea that McCain could have been President since he was, according to the birther logic, from Panama.

What some of you may not realize is that McCain’s citizenship actually had to be verified prior to the 2008 election because some members of both parties weren’t sure if his election would be constitutional.  Because Obama’s birth was well documented as being in Hawaii and to an American mother, his was not tested by both parties in Congress.  Instead, his went before courts back then to prove he was a real American.  His citizenship was verified again several times, even before Donald Trump decided to go after Obama.

Now, there is a precedent of the clause not being followed to the strictest of standards for some, while being interpreted too strictly for people from unpopular backgrounds in the past:

  • Chester Arthur was rumored to be born in Canada.  Despite the rumors, he was able to convince enough officials that he was American by birth.
  • Barry Goldwater, a candidate in 1964, was born in the Arizona Territory before it officially became one of the fifty states.  The 50 states thing is a common issue for some birther-types.
  • Mitt Romney’s father George was born in Mexico to American parents. George was still able to be called an American citizen because his parents retained their citizenship. This allowed him to run for president.
  • Lowell Weicker was born in Paris to American parents and was allowed to run because he was considered to be an American by birth.
  • Christopher Schürmann was born in New York to German parents and tried to run for President in 1896. Despite being born in the country, his campaign was forced to disband because some Attorneys General felt uncomfortable about his parents being naturalized citizens. (Germans were discriminated against at that time, like many other minority ethnic groups.)

Basically, the country has had a history of allowing people who look a certain way or have acceptable names to get away with not being born in the right place or to the right kind of parents to run, while scrutinizing others. Since the scrutiny is only being focused, in great amounts, towards minorities, it makes birthers seem racist.

And the recent court order for Obama to appear before a Georgia judge to prove his citizenship is further proof that some of you are clearly taking this racist witchhunt way too far. What is surprising is that many of you are reportedly well-educated, with some of you even being doctors or lawyers, but you are unable to grasp the simple concept that yes, black folks born in this country can become President.  Maybe it isn’t your fault.  Maybe you were dropped on your heads or subjected to the racist tirades of a relative.  Whatever the reason, you need to get over it.  Obama has proven in court that he is an American, yet you won’t give it up.  You’re basically repeatedly filing truly frivolous lawsuits, which is either because you are too brainwashed by some Klan-like group or you are just too damn immature to admit that you are wrong and that filing these lawsuits is a waste of time and does the country no good.  So, I shall give you some free advice: get over it.

P.S. – Please tell some of your friends who keep calling Obama a “Muslim” that he isn’t one. (I heard a comment yesterday on the news from someone who claimed Obama was Muslim.)  Also, tell them that being a Muslim is not an insult.  I know some people think Muslims are terrorists, and yeah, there are some terrorists who claim to be Muslim, but they are in the minority.  (There are terrorists from ALL religious backgrounds.)  So, let’s stop with the ignorance and stick to facts.

 

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